VikingsGuy
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I don't have a magic answer, but I just take it one step at a time - and lead with empathy. I try to treat all strangers with a base level of love and respect as commanded by my faith. As I interact with a person I try to be open and aware of how they may have specific needs/perspectives. I may interact with an old woman differently than a young man. Not to the level of stereotyping, but from a perspective of empathy and openness to the differences their lives may have taken them down. Similarly, I will likely adjust my approach if I see a lone male on a trail vs a lone woman. Maybe the woman has no concerns and is a Navy seal that could kick my ass, but being a good-sized guy I would try to give her a little more space and make sure I wasn't looming over her. In contrast, I wouldn't think at all about how I walked past the guy. Similarly, if I saw a black hunter at a small WY pub sitting alone I might make sure to say hi or buy him/her a drink to show acceptance/support. I have one black friend who appreciates it when I mention some of the racial things I am seeing/reading, another one doesn't want to talk about it all. I try to meet each in their own place, but in the end, we are each shaped by our experience, our culture, our history, our faith (or lack thereof) and yes, our racial experiences.Honest questions: Should you treat someone different based upon an assumption of their life experiences? In this case, by seeing someone's color, what assumptions should I make and how should I adjust how I treat that person? If I start from a place of treating everyone with respect, should I change how I act based upon the color of the skin of a person I'm meeting for the first time?
The reason I ask all of this is because of what I've said before about how my parents were/are not racist and I don't believe I am either. So it's confusing to me to be told that I should "see color" when it's never affected how I treated someone before. I think people like me get confused and turned around when we get told to "see color" because it implies that we should adjust our actions in some way based on the color.