HighDesertSage
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I'm sorry. Praying for you.
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You're a good man, Charles. His family will appreciate your support.I spoke with my friend a few days ago. He sounded content, for lack of better words. Unfortunately, and as expected, he seemed to lose thought of prior casual discussions a few minutes earlier. His wife shared heavy medications to minimize pain effects his brain and the course cancer takes contributes
Last night I received a text from his wife,
"It's ####:
#### can't speak anymore he seems to be on his final days."
It has to be a challenge for his son (16y/o) and wife. I'm not sure if it's better to slowly fade with family or a quick pass...
I'm not a raised family person so I don't have a good vibe on what would be the most ideal for family.
I'm on the flight to Houston as I type. At this point, for his son, mostly.
Life...
I don’t know this person, but putting it into perspective the way that you have, tears well up in my eyes and it’s hard for me to fight back. You’re a good friend to him. Best wishes to everyone, Sir.Thanks all. I appreciate everyone's comments.
The setting was an enhanced reality of what my mind envisioned. He's in very rough shape. An amazing, seasoned hospice nurse! Signed as a witness for a DNR. Nurse called for a continuous nurse as his body's no longer digesting food, etc.
I don't think it's necessary to go into further detail.
Considering the setting the time spent went as good, if not better than I hoped.
Toughest part was watching his son come from his bedroom every half hour or so, rock solid strength, hugging his dad, saying he loves him, he's okay with him to pass on to heaven, going back to his room, and balling for a minute or two.
I was able to chit chat with him in his room as he played games to distract himself. He shared he didn't want to talk to his mother about how he feels because it makes her cry.
I shared it's tough though sometimes it helps to give her an opportunity to talk and cry with him... He spilled a ton of emotions, balled as he hugged me, regrouped, and asked if he could have a few minutes to himself.
I found the restroom.
I know this tugged many of your own experiences. Your shared comments made me a better person for this family.
Warmest regards.
Idk if this helps but it gives me a little optimism that this may not be the end all be all.
Talking with my best friend the other night, as we get older the conversations have gone from jokes and hot babes to, holy shit we are getting old.
He was telling me he had this dream about his brother (who died tragically due to a semi tire blowing up in his face). But in the dream he was having a fully in control conversation with his brother. He said to him John your dead, and his brother said yea I am. This is pretty weird right? then Proceeded to laugh at my buddy like it was all a big joke (like he normally does).
I dont know maybe this is not the end for us. I think its great your there to the end though. Sadly had to bury a lot of friends over my life, none of them have been easy. I've felt it only gets harder as I get older. Its all good to feel this kind of emotion, its human.