Divorce, do you ever see it coming...

[300stw]

divorce, do you ever see it coming,

21 years together, kid graduates and goes into military,,,, wife decides needs to be free,,, wonder what I missed,,,,

 

[Dave N]

Sorry, man. Looks like I'm probably going there myself. 31 years.

 

[GASoline71]

I saw mine with my first wife coming, and still stayed another 11 years. 14 years total. Finally couldn't take it anymore... it was hard, but in the long run, was the best thing that ever happened to me.

She despised hunting season, and we never really clicked on a few other things.

that was 15 years ago. The woman in my life now (been together 8 years and married for 6 years) is a wonderful, loving, caring person. Life partner, huning partner, lover and best friend. I didn't have any of that in any other relationship I've ever had. "Time heals all wounds." Not sure who said that, but it was true for me.

Gary

 

[JMBC]

married 25 yrs to the high school sweetheart and then she left. I hear ya. I will say it takes a couple yrs to get better but things happen for a reason. Got a wonderful woman now so things work out

 

[kmott]

I saw it comin , right afore I booted her out.

 

[Carl 9.3x62]

Sorry to hear that man! It sucks. Didn't really see mine coming. But life is good now. I have a girl friend who enjoys the outdoors way more than my ex. She even enjoys hunting with me. Good luck.

 

[TC207]

Sorry to hear bud. Get out in the woods. Time, and time in nature, heal all wounds. Focus on yourself and what makes you happy. You’ll be alright.

 

[hansontyrel]

Focus on what makes you happy and keep grinding! Sorry to hear it brother. Go enjoy the wild, there's no better place to reflect.

 

[brownbear932008]

It's tough been there done that and yes it caught me by surprise. But in the end things happen for a reason and life gets better. I found that I found my happy place spending more time with friends and family and enjoying the outdoors more.

 

[LandPro]

I hate it for you, that has got to suck. Been fortunate myself, but had some friends go through it. I guess you treat it as an opportunity to upgrade. I think it would be worse if you did see it coming, if you wanted to avoid it and couldn't. At least that band aid got ripped clean off and wasn't preceded by a few years of low-grade misery.

 

[geetar]

Haven’t been there but that don’t mean it can’t happen to me. Prayers for you as you go through this time.

 

[LopeHunter]

Hang in there. Sort through the financial issues and it will be messy. My advice is to decide what a decade from now needs to look like for you to be happier than you were a year ago. Plan the work, work the plan. One foot in front of the other and can eventually can emerge on the other side of this mess.

 

[Little Big Man MT Chris]

Divorce is hard , you will get through it , I’m 5 years past mine , It was best Option for me and it was still one of the hardest things I’ve ever went through, this to will pass , nothing is permanent. Keep looking forward, I kept a low profile and stayed close to family through mine

 

[Greyman]

They say that about half of all marriages end in divorce, but that means the other half end in DEATH.

Seriously though, hang in there compadre. It does get better even though it might not seem like it right now.

 

[Rhino Hunter]

300stw,

Sorry to hear that. It’ll probably hurt for a while, but it will subside. Time heals all wounds.

I never saw mine coming either. She walked in, said she wanted to talk, told me she filed for divorce, and was gone within the hour.

Since then I have a saying: “Women. Can’t live with ‘em...can’t live with ‘em.” There’s not much more to say.

Be strong, and good luck.

 

[PNWGator]

Don’t give up! Start here: https://www.loveandrespect.com/

Prayers sent. It’s a horrible road regardless of the circumstances and I wish you and your family God’s Presence, Peace, Power and Purpose.

 

[isu22andy]

Its never to late in your life to make a change. Whether its divorce or a change to save it . Good luck man . Tough situation .

 

[Dave N]

May as well throw my story in also since I hinted at it earlier. 31 years, 2 grown kids. Had lots of good times as well as bad. Could always fight like cats and dogs. I quit drinking, she continued and hid it but not very well. Would outright lie when confronted. I work a lot and am gone most of the day plus weekends as much as I could. Left her here alone most of the time. Thought we had something to straighten things out when we bought our cabin in Alaska. Guess not. Sent me a text yesterday saying we were selling the cabin to pay off the mortgage and then get divorced. Said I could stay here in the house I grew up in. Guess that means I'm buying her out so she has money to move on with. Also means I have to take out a new loan to pay her, so any retirement plans are gone. Probably not going to be quick or easy. Hopefully this thread will be helpful with some of the posts coming in. Not sure if I feel any better having said this or not.

 

[Pucky Freak]

Her loss. Sorry about the rough time you are going through. Sometimes you can make a lot of good decisions and in the end the other person just has other ideas and there's nothing you can do about it.

 

[Pucky Freak]

My wife and I are coming up on three years next month. The D word has been thrown around a few times but we've been able to work through stuff so far. She's a workaholic and at one point I said it's either me or the job and she chose to cut her hours. I had no idea how much work a relationship was going to be... Rewarding, and a lot of work.