As traditionally used, socialism required government owned means of production. In the last few years this has morphed into a squishy, "be like Denmark" sentiment. We are definitely highly regulated and we dance with "chrony-capitalism" at times, but we are not at all socialist in the traditional sense of the word. There is a big leap from a regulated capitalism that prioritizes a social safety net to full on socialism. Given the catastrophic outcomes of just about every attempt at socialism I think we should not confuse the two.
Spot on. Democratic Socialism is a far different beast than actual socialism. It's sad that we can't get that figured out. I'm for single payer, but against UBI - for example. One is based on input into the system, the other simply takes from one to give to another. Not cool.