Bad Hunting Partners

[utah400elk]

I love hunting and have introduced many people to hunting. My wife has asked me a bunch of times why I don’t change careers and try to guide...simple answer. There are too many people I would want to simply leave in the woods. I have lost several hunting buddies over the years. I simply cherish my time in the woods far too much to spend even a minute with an A-hole. I now get to spend all my hunts with my 12 year old son. You made the right choice.

 

[BlakeA]

People will show you who they are. Believe them.

Good for you moving on.

 

[Muskeez]

A quote I recently heard was this: "Some people are meant to serve others, and some people expect to be served" - pretty easy to see that the vast majority of folks either fall into one category of the other.
I had a similar deal...He's still one of my best friends, we fish together a lot, but I have learned that I can't elk hunt with him. I'm glad I figured it out before it came to the point that you guys got to.

 

[Gerald Martin]

Sounds as if you waited a few years too long to cut the cord...

Considering the facts, yep. Good for you for seeing it for what it is.

 

[Cheesehead]

I think you made the right decision. Still must suck though.

 

[Arctic_Snow_Seeker]

The answer to your question is a big fat NO.... not only does he have a great state job, he owns three homes which, in total, have over a million dollars equity, plus he got a rather large inheritance about 6 years ago. He lives in an 8,000 sq ft house if that tells you anything...

Well you don’t get money by spending money on stupid stuff like gas to go hunting.

 

[KB_]

Ouch, hopefully I never run into this. Although I tend to try to make people laugh by making fun of myself. I'm a marine tho I cant help it. Normally drive separate from my hunting partners just so splitting fuel is a non issue. I like talking smack for fun and my hunting partner is an accountant so it works out perfectly. Hope you work it out tho. Life is to short to hold onto grief.

 

[EYJONAS!]

Interesting first post to say the least but I'll echo everyone on here by saying it happens. It probably too some effect has happened to all of us at some point. Sometimes not easy to move on from with the memories shared, in the end though it's probably for the better. Good luck to you sounds like he's just a guy that enough is never enough......

 

[sbhooper]

THIS is why I usually hunted alone over the years.

 

[Jappenz617]

I primarily hunt solo but in 2018 I had a friend decide he wanted to team up and hunt mule deer in Montana with me. We planned for a 5-6 day hunt. The first morning I could see he wasn’t at all enthusiastic with our hike to a glassing spot. I told him to prepare before we went and we’d be walking/hiking a lot. While walking back to the truck on the third evening, he said he couldn’t hunt anymore and wanted to go home. Said it wasn’t his style of hunting (Midwest tree stand hunter). Instead of being miserable, we cut the hunt short and headed home. What got me was while on our 15 hr drive, he called his family and continually told them how he hated western hunting and he was miserable the whole time. No more trips with him!

 

[BearFoot]

I love hunting and have introduced many people to hunting. I simply cherish my time in the woods far too much to spend even a minute with an A-hole. You made the right choice.

I've simply chosen not to hunt with him any longer.

I have had to let family go, for the similar reasons.

 

[Mallardsx2]

DIY is just what it is. Sometimes its better that way.

 

[Mallardsx2]

The answer to your question is a big fat NO.... not only does he have a great state job, he owns three homes which, in total, have over a million dollars equity, plus he got a rather large inheritance about 6 years ago. He lives in an 8,000 sq ft house if that tells you anything...

Tells me the guy is broke. lol

 

[Woodrow F Call]

You made the right decision. I wouldn't let it taint the friendship you have. Just don't hunt with him.

Tells me the guy is broke. lol

State job, three homes, large inheritance.... could be spending money faster than gaining it. Could be money has made him narcissistic.... or something else altogether. Could be the guy is just a jerk.

 

[JoltnJoe]

Good for you! Life is too short to tolerate selfishness... particularly selfish hunting partners!

 

[midwesthunter]

Happens, some times you can straighten them out and see reason, if not you have to decide if you want to continue to hunt with them.

 

[noharleyyet]

Hunt pards are like wimmens....you should only have to tell em once. "What's that?...yes dear."

....guess she heard me typing.

 

[mplane72]

Any time I start feeling like I'm the guide and enabler for someone who is fully capable of doing it on their own I slowly start to cut ties. If they don't step then eventually they're gone.

when we go on a full blown hunting trip it's a socialist endeavor. Driver shows up with a full tank and goes home with a full tank. In your case i would have turned around and taken him home at the first pump.

 

[bluespruce]

The answer to your question is a big fat NO.... not only does he have a great state job, he owns three homes which, in total, have over a million dollars equity, plus he got a rather large inheritance about 6 years ago. He lives in an 8,000 sq ft house if that tells you anything...

Well, he could be loaded... or loaded with debt. There are plenty of people that appear rich at first glance but do some digging and you find a big salary that is going to an outsized mortgage, expensive car lease, etc. and they are really living paycheck to paycheck (or pretty close).

In any case, if you didn't like hunting with him for whatever reason, then you did the right thing by moving on. I hope you are able to move past it with this person eventually and get back on good terms even if you no longer hunt together.

 

[squirrel]

Kinda like filleting walleye where the first 500 are the hardest, ditching a deadbeat hunter its the first 50. I can do it between the application and the draw now.