My brother served in Afghanistan and my grandfather in Viet Nam.
The one thing they have in common is neither of them ever talk about their tours of duty. Not in any detail or at length anyway.
My brother seems different the last few days. Distant, sullen, maybe even irritated, it is hard for me to put my finger or it or choose a specific word for it.
My grandfather also seems a bit different, quieter for sure
I ask my grandmother and she said just stay "up", dont push, but listen if they choose to talk.
Then I read this thread and saw April's post and wondered how our leaving Afghanistan might "feel" like Viet Nam all over again to my grandfather.
I have hugged them both, told them I love them and thanked them for serving in the military and I am here if they want to talk, but they are not talking, to me anyway, maybe to each other.
The one thing they have in common is neither of them ever talk about their tours of duty. Not in any detail or at length anyway.
My brother seems different the last few days. Distant, sullen, maybe even irritated, it is hard for me to put my finger or it or choose a specific word for it.
My grandfather also seems a bit different, quieter for sure
I ask my grandmother and she said just stay "up", dont push, but listen if they choose to talk.
Then I read this thread and saw April's post and wondered how our leaving Afghanistan might "feel" like Viet Nam all over again to my grandfather.
I have hugged them both, told them I love them and thanked them for serving in the military and I am here if they want to talk, but they are not talking, to me anyway, maybe to each other.