and i wouldn't even know about that sack really if it wasn't for my social media constantly pushing it to me in some sort of meme form!
oops, does that show me as even younger?
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and i wouldn't even know about that sack really if it wasn't for my social media constantly pushing it to me in some sort of meme form!
oops, does that show me as even younger?
seeth07
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yes...unfortunately it does. Clearly a social media kid and the root of all the world's problems! Haha I kid...sorta
you must have never met a tik tok teen then?
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Good evening, I’m Chris Hansen…
KB_
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Our little one has had a fridge door to the face a few times. Usually from one of my other kids opening the fridge and she follows.
You might get lucky though, one head impact and you could end up with a genius.
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Yep, I remember for the first year I felt like my world had fallen apart. We waited a long time to have kids, I was 35, and we had good careers with expendable income and the time to do whatever we wanted. That all slams shut the day your first child is born. You're forever a dad after that, it never goes away. I told a friend that if I listed my five favorite parts of my life prior to having a kid, I had lost every single one of them. Looking back, I honestly think I went into a slight depression for awhile.
Eventually you kind of settle in to your new reality and being a dad becomes the biggest part of your life, I think it's the most important job any of us will ever have. The duty I feel to properly raise another human being and be a good influence and model for her future relationships is so humbling. She will likely look for a spouse that is similar to what she grew up with at home, and I so much want that person to be a good husband and father.
Now my little girl is my little friend and I do things with her because she's freaking hilarious and awesome to be around. You're in for so many good times ahead. Enjoy! It just keeps getting better!
Irrelevant
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I agree but all of us parents with 2 or more kids are laughing right now.
I remember looking back and reminiscing about how incredibly easy one was. Two is four times harder... at least.
i think most people do. i've described it as a period of mourning one's self. even when one knows full well how much everything will change. it's just another one of those things, you just don't actually know, until you know.
seeth07
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I stand corrected. You are certainly correct there. The world is doomed for destruction in the next 10-20 years as those come of age
yeah but it's a game of relativity.
it all get's harder with more, but i think zero to one will remain as the greatest magnitude and most shocking alteration to your life of all of them... simply because you started at 0. nothing can prepare you or really educate you on much different life actually is at zero, until it's not anymore and that's why it's the greatest magnitude change.
in other words, 1 is like a 100 times harder than zero. it's the biggest shock and the biggest toss into a the deep end of new things you have to figure out as a person and spouse.
but of course to your point, suit up, cause it's only just begun.
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Irrelevant
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true. There is no greater jump than 0 to 1.
But you figure 1 out pretty fast and realize, honestly, it ain't that hard, besides you have a teammate to help, help think things through, help hand you things, help cleanup, just help. You get to the point where you each get some personal time again pretty quick. i.e. I'll take care of the little one while you go for a run, or yoga, or drinking, or hunting.
But from 2 on, it was more, I know how to do this, but I can't, there's simply not enough eyes, hands, or time. WTF am I supposed to do? And individual free time? None existent for a much longer period of time, unless you have incredible helpful family nearby, then you skip to the front of the line and it's probably not that much harder.
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But with two you can at least still play man to man defense. Three you’re now playing zone. I stopped at two.
Irrelevant
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But only if you're both there. With both of us working, often late, it was mostly 2 on 1. With one setting up the diversion while the other broke shit, and me swearing up a storm.
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Yup. Sounds all too familiar.
Refreshing this post. I’m nearly to the end of a 4 week paternity leave for our second baby. I’m lucky beyond measure as my wife is a rockstar. She made me go out and try and fill a cow tag 10 days post-delivery. It ended with a filled tag and then the addition of processing a cow elk in the following week.
We have our 2.5 year old and this new baby. It’s crazy to think of how different the second go-around has been compared to our first. Just checking in with the rest of you in these similar trenches. How is it going?
We have our 2.5 year old and this new baby. It’s crazy to think of how different the second go-around has been compared to our first. Just checking in with the rest of you in these similar trenches. How is it going?
My kids are 2.5 yrs apart as well. Second time was (and continues to be...) way way harder than the first time. Our second just turned one and he is coming into his own. His toddler brother, however, has never been more of a terror. I haven'd had a full nights sleep since August.
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Our first was the toughest baby but the easiest toddler. Our second reversed course and was the easiest baby you could hope for. But when he turned two . . . that was a rough couple of years. That is why there was less than 3 years between number 1 and number 2, but almost 4 years between number 2 and number 3 lol.
Number 2 is two months old now.
It's been really hard, really amazing, exceedingly joyful and, at times, just relentlessly depressing. This baby is not falling into a sleeping pattern nearly as fast as number 1 did, but we are still making good progress. I think we'll be 6-7 hours through the night very soon.
Post partum on the wife seems much worse this time around. My time is now spread between her, the newborn, the 2 year old, and the dog - meaning, she's functionally solo on the newborn compared to last time. Now, on the days i'm back at work and she's solo on all of the creatures, she's struggling much more than last time. Those struggles (along with how often I'm just such a stupid ass man) have had collateral effects on all facets of our lives and marriage. It's hard.
Throw in my newfound mental health struggles, oof. It's much easier in some aspects, in others, this is much, much harder than the first go.
But what a Fall of joys it's been. Now, having 12 weeks of paternity leave compared to my piddly 2 weeks with our first, I have been so overjoyed at how much time I've gotten to spend with our 2 year old just me and him.
Managed to squeeze in plenty with a 2 year old and a newborn/infant this fall. Gotta say, life is good, even if it also sucks on many days.
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