Opposite Sex Friendships - Opinions Please!!!!

[WH's OutdoorsChick]

I wanted to get ya’ll’s opinion on this subject with you being men in all. If a man and a woman decide to be friends with each other, is that something that would be considered acceptable? I was talking to a gentleman who thought that if a man and women are platonic friends then that must mean that you may want to jump into a relationship with each other. Most my friends are men who I think of more like brothers then friends or “relationship material”. I think that once you get in a relationship the terms of your friendships change, and it is not AS acceptable. So I guess what I am asking is (assuming the parties are single) when a man and women befriend each other does it always have to mean that there is a potential relationship or can a man and a women be Just Friends just the same as same sex friendships.

Thanks

 

[nmtaxi]

Hey Chicky, I think people can have opposite sex friendships. I have some women friends. A few are just friends and nothing more. Some are potential relationships if circumstances were different. So, to answer your question, it depends on how HOT they are.

 

[Nut]

I'll have to ask my wife how she wants me to reply to this question since she wears the pants here.

 

[Gunner46]

When I was in college, I had two female roommates. (different times). They were both very good friends. My buddies. One had potential for more, but the circumstances just weren't right, but then again it didn't make any difference. I just enjoyed their company, we both made some adjustments to our life styles and kept things on a 'friendly' basis. Worked out great, but it has to be with the right type of person. EVERYTHING has to be talked out well in advance!!!!!!!!! We had known each other for a couple of years before jumpimg into the pool (so to speak), but platonic friendships actually DO exist.

P.S. That doesn't mean EVERY friendship can work out that way!!!!!!!

 

[Whiskers]

I have a couple of real good friends that are women. My wife has never met any of them, but has talked to them on the phone when they call. I know I never had any feelings other than friendship, and I don't think they have either. We are all married people, and happy with our spouses.

 

[ELKCHSR]

It is a tough road to hoe, especially when you finally find that right mr/miss right. One thing to really consider is if they are willing to share you with others of their sex. Some people really have issues with it. Since you seem the type to befreind any one, make sure they are good with you and other men...
Some individuals know who you will be comming home to every night. I have no issues with my wife and any of her friends from work going out. She "seems" to be good with me and my working comerads... Some being women...

 

[RogueWarrior1957]

In my old-fashioned opinion, there has to be friendship or something there before there can be a more intimate encounter. I've had many lady friends, that being great friends is all that has ever come of the friendship, and all either party was looking for. I've been out of high-school for nearly 30 years, and several of the girls I grew up with are still in my circle of very best friends...and we never even hit on one another. I would drop whatever I was doing and lend them a hand with any kind of chore, to this very day. A British friend of mine said it best, "A friend is the same as a lover...without the rude bit."

-Bill-

 

[pawclaws]

One of my very best friends is a gal I used to work with. We just hit it off from day one. Never had a thought of jumping her bones. She is just one good buddy. And we are so opposite!!

 

[Elkhunter]

I see nothinng wrong with it. Being friends does not mean you have to have a relationship with them.

 

[Hangar18]

I keep friendships with women very cordial and distant. I know I won't take it any further, but I don't want them to ever get the wrong idea. One woman I was friends with in college got the idea I was after more and sicked her boyfriend on me. I told him we were just study partners, and that I hadn't even looked at her in that way. Finally after getting tired of being nice, I told him that there was not enough beer in the keg. But it happened regardless, so I stay aloof. I make it a point never to enter a man's house when he is not home.

 

[smalls]

Great in theory and all, but you never can tell what they are thinking (women or men). I have had a "platonic" friend that is a girl for a couple of years. But lately when we are out drinking, with others of course, she makes sarcastic comments about me breaking up with my girlfriend but I get the impression she is serious. I don't dare go near her now because I don't even want to confront the situation.

From my situation, if my girlfriend was hanging out all the time with a "platonic" guy friend and I didn't know him, I would be a little concerned. Granted my girlfriend moved 500 miles away to finish her last year of college. It would just make me feel uncomfortable if I didn't know the guy...

 

[RogueWarrior1957]

Hangar 18,

That is a very wise response. Years ago, I was accused of a similar happening. We had band practice in one guy's garage. He lived out in the country, so the neighbors were far enough away that they didn't complain. I got off work at 4 in the evening and had an hour drive home from work. Kenny got off work at 5 in the evening and had about a 5-10 minute drive home. I usually got to his place about 2-3 minutes before he did, and I sat in the truck until he got there. One time I accepted a glass of iced tea from his wife...but I never set foot in the house unless he was home. Nevertheless, he got the idea that I was having an affair with his wife...guess he thought I was a quick study. I found I didn't need his friendship either!

Now, if I go by any of my friend's house and don't see his vehicle, I don't even stop...this even goes for family as well. Kind of like the old R&R song by the Who, "I Won't Get Fooled Again"

-RW-

 

[Mojave]

I've always preffered the company of men. They are just so much easier to understand - no 500 layers of meaning to everything they say. What comes out of their mouths is probably exactly what is on their minds. I like Gunner's take on it. Be upfront. Talk it out. Don't leave the pontential hanging in the air. Then there is no problem - between you and your friend that is. Count on it, if you've got a man, he's gonna be jealous!

P.S. I don't think I'm allowed to be friends with Wylee or DanR anymore.

 

[kiwi hunta]

what comes out of their mouths is probably exactly what is going on in their minds Great going guys if we can can deceive Karen we can keep our Wifes at bay

 

[ELKCHSR]

LOL Jeff....

 

[danr55]

Why Mojave, Darlin'.. You have taken the grace and charm from my life. I will sorely miss the tender moment we shared.. once, a year ago at a park in Idaho.. with 70 other people and your brother.

. your kids.

.. and Ithica..

.. standing there.. but alas.. even the finest moments in life must pass..... My life will never be the same.

 

[JohnSWA]

BEEEEE CAREFUL!!!!

My first wife had a CLOSE opposite sex friend, and my SECOND wife had a FRIEND of the opposite sex...don't get me started...long story.

My third and LAST wife will NOT have a close opposite sex friend!

What I'm getting at is that it's ok if you're not married. Not when you are, in my case anyway.

 

[Tom]

I've had Married female friends and single ones and really enjoyed them. I introduced one of my male friends in college to one of my female friends in college and they got married. My male friend was nervous about me after that, because he lost his girlfriend to his best friend when he was off in the service. So, the friendships get some different issues in them than just guy to guy or gal to gal friends.

I think your guy friend is horny maybe, haha.

 

[Nut]

Originally posted by Tom:
I've had Married female friends and single ones and really enjoyed them.

So have I

 

[JohnSWA]

Don't even start the "service" stuff!

I've had horny wives betting on which would take me home while their husbands were off on TDY!

They all lost!

I don't go that way!

What a bunch of BS!!!