Dating advice. Older women?

[Mallardsx2]

Its a ratio of looks to money to age. We need a photo @DouglasR . Without that, we can't make any judgements

We don't need a photo. If she's rich, do it and hang on.

When in Rome, just do as women have done for centuries and don't have remorse for doing it.

Because, well, they dont....

 

[EYJONAS!]

Bruh..... she's got a need to feel the Thunder.

#fullsend

 

[2rocky]

My other half is 53, 4 years older than me. So I know the Age Range.

Near Term, a big age gap can be fun. Long term depends on shared values and goals. Ideally you should have enough women in your life that one rises above the rest. When it comes to long term relationships, I've found this list of questions to help me be objective...

Is she available to commit to a relationship with me?



Do I love her for who she is right now, who she is today?



Does she blame her ex, kids, other people, or circumstances for her life situation?



Is this what I really want?



Am I afraid to be alone?



Does she talk too much (especially about herself) and tend to monopolize the conversation?



Does she appear to be poor listener?



Do I find myself wanting to “help” or rescue this divorced or divorcing woman because I see her potential?



Is she emotionally distant?



What kind of effort does she make to really connect?



Does she walk her talk? Does what she says about herself appear to match reality?



What am I most attracted to about her?



Do I find myself focusing on one important quality (sex, fun, humor, money, etc), while ignoring unmet relationship requirements?



Do we share values?



Is she pessimistic or negative about things that matter to me?



Does she appear to still be pining for her ex or another past relationship?



What do this woman and I have in common?



What are the glaring differences between me and my partner?



Am I avoiding looking at the differences, because of the important things that we have in common?



Does she appear to accept feedback, take responsibility, and be willing to self-examine?



Is she honest in dealing with people, money, etc?



Does she appear to lack integrity?



Am I trying to change this woman to fit what I want, instead of accepting her for who she is?



Does it feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster, and that there is regular and recurring emotional drama in this relationship?



Does this woman tend to react to frustration with anger, rage and/or blame?



Does she try to control everything (including me)?



Would I want this woman to raise my child?



Is this woman looking to me to make her life better (especially if her life is particularly problematic?)



How is her attitude?



Does she appear to be overly judgmental toward herself or other people?



Does she have an active addition (or addictive disposition)?



If she has an addiction or addictive disposition, does she rationalize it as “not a problem”?



Can I depend on this woman to keep agreements?



Does this woman tend to be immature, impulsive, and/or irresponsible?



Would I want my child to be exactly like my partner?

 

[noharleyyet]

"Marry a women for money and you'll earn it three times over."

-Big Skip

 

[Wrong Burgundy]

Alright so my main thang from last year decided she’d rather go back to the bar scene than live the monastic, disciplined life of a western bow hunter that I tried to show her.
Is what it is.
She’s a cool chick, but weak men stand in crowds whilst strong ones stand alone.

Which brings me to the matter at hand.
Around the same time I met the girl mentioned above, I met this 52 year old Vanderbilt n.p.
We’ve hung out on and off for the past year.
She even skied a couple laps with me this winter when she was out seeing friends.
She was phenomenal on the greens, but it took us about 2hrs to get down from the top of super bee and I was really worried her or someone else was gonna die.
Honestly, I really thought I was just working for her as a pool boy, but we’ve been hanging out more this summer and she’s even asked me to meet her parents and friends which I have been unable to do because of scheduling conflicts.
There’s definitely some weirdness with the age gap.
I find her to be a very attractive women, if I was 40 or 50 I’d be proud as shit.
But last summer we were getting dinner and when she got up to use the restroom, the very attractive 20 something waitress asked me if she was my mom or girlfriend and it was odd. (Nosy bitch) lol
Obviously I wonder what the future would bring if I was 50 and she was 70, but we’ve all seen how good @noharleyyet , @JLS and @MT Rookie aka OR Chris look.
Modern medicine and lifestyle have really altered the effects of aging in this country.
One obvious benefit of dating this seasoned, Vanderbilt educated, medical professional is that in the future, if @wllm ’s complaining about his wife’s student loans or the hours she’s working I can always be like “hey kid, stick with it. It’s gonna pay off once she gets some experience under her belt” and I can send him pictures of me in her ex husband’s bathrobe standing in front of her subway tile backsplash and glass door shower in her baller ass house.

But yeah, I’ve bounced these thoughts of the irl homies and they seem to think that as long as she’s not asking her to kill her ex husband, i should see where it goes.

Just wondering what you guys and gals thought of the situation.
Thanks for any help and feedback.
Happy Friday!

Maybe I missed it in the thread, but what is the age difference? Are you 19 and she's 52 and it is a naughty teacher thing, or are you like 10 years younger?

 

[mtmuley]

What would Greenhorn do? mtmuley

 

[eshunt]

It doesn't fit the formula: (52/2)+7=33 and 33 > 29. So no, you shouldn't be dating the cougar. LOL!

Joking aside, who cares about age. If you are having fun stick with it.

 

[noharleyyet]

My other half is 53, 4 years older than me. So I know the Age Range.

Near Term, a big age gap can be fun. Long term depends on shared values and goals. Ideally you should have enough women in your life that one rises above the rest. When it comes to long term relationships, I've found this list of questions to help me be objective...

Is she available to commit to a relationship with me?



Do I love her for who she is right now, who she is today?



Does she blame her ex, kids, other people, or circumstances for her life situation?



Is this what I really want?



Am I afraid to be alone?



Does she talk too much (especially about herself) and tend to monopolize the conversation?



Does she appear to be poor listener?



Do I find myself wanting to “help” or rescue this divorced or divorcing woman because I see her potential?



Is she emotionally distant?



What kind of effort does she make to really connect?



Does she walk her talk? Does what she says about herself appear to match reality?



What am I most attracted to about her?



Do I find myself focusing on one important quality (sex, fun, humor, money, etc), while ignoring unmet relationship requirements?



Do we share values?



Is she pessimistic or negative about things that matter to me?



Does she appear to still be pining for her ex or another past relationship?



What do this woman and I have in common?



What are the glaring differences between me and my partner?



Am I avoiding looking at the differences, because of the important things that we have in common?



Does she appear to accept feedback, take responsibility, and be willing to self-examine?



Is she honest in dealing with people, money, etc?



Does she appear to lack integrity?



Am I trying to change this woman to fit what I want, instead of accepting her for who she is?



Does it feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster, and that there is regular and recurring emotional drama in this relationship?



Does this woman tend to react to frustration with anger, rage and/or blame?



Does she try to control everything (including me)?



Would I want this woman to raise my child?



Is this woman looking to me to make her life better (especially if her life is particularly problematic?)



How is her attitude?



Does she appear to be overly judgmental toward herself or other people?



Does she have an active addition (or addictive disposition)?



If she has an addiction or addictive disposition, does she rationalize it as “not a problem”?



Can I depend on this woman to keep agreements?



Does this woman tend to be immature, impulsive, and/or irresponsible?



Would I want my child to be exactly like my partner?

Were it that simple...

 

[Elkmagnet]

Show her this thread if she laughs keep her, if not she is too mature for you. She will eventually figure out that she is.

 

[Little Big Man MT Chris]

How much money does she have?

If she's loaded, blow the cobwebs out of that there mare, take one for the team, and retire early.

Oh no you didn’t. Ha ha ha

 

[noharleyyet]

What would Greenhorn do? mtmuley

Stifler Complex...who ain't guilty?

 

[nhenry]

Find out her motives. If she's in it for the kidney, ditch. Anything other than that, continue as you are.

 

[The Hedgehog]

This thread is useless without pictures.

 

[geewhiz]

 

[NDGuy]

We’ve hung out on and off for the past year.

 

[Deleted member 48080]

Hurry! Before whe wisens up.
Get that cake, son!

 

[2rocky]

Here is some good Reading...While we are being introspective. Know yourself.....

The Seasons of a Man's Life: An Introduction

Phases of growth and interest, conflict and drama, change and renewal happen continuously throughout one's life, and in a predictable pattern.

www.artofmanliness.com

 

[noharleyyet]

Here is some good Reading...While we are being introspective. Know yourself.....

The Seasons of a Man's Life: An Introduction

Phases of growth and interest, conflict and drama, change and renewal happen continuously throughout one's life, and in a predictable pattern.

www.artofmanliness.com

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The thing is, we, all too often, relapse to clay 2rocky

 

[The Hedgehog]

52 is a leathery vintage kind of thing in most cases. I can see where a young man may want to dip his toes in, hit it and quit it, etc. But it sounds like @DouglasR went there, developed a weird kind of fetish, and is now looking for affirmation on hunttalk.com. Different strokes for different folks. We won't judge you.

 

[Hem]

Make sure she has actual female body parts?