Well, every single old-time rancher I know does eat well-done steaks. Every last grizzled one of them. Maybe its because they know all the stuff those cattle are injected with over the course of their lifetime? I don't know.....
Friend over for dinner.
I just had to say that was good of an explanation of being a man/American as I have ever heard !I have similar conversations with some of the younger folks I work with at Scheels and some of my kids 20 something year old friends. My parents divorce (I was 8) left me with a mean, demeaning step father until I was 14 when my mom finally got rid of him.....right before we found out she had terminal cancer. I have a great uncle (her brother) that I was around some (VN vet and no BS guy due to my Grandpa) and my mom's dad who was hard as woodpecker lips but still caring I wish I could have had a lot more time with. When my mom passed I went to live with my Dad and the despicable dumpster fire he was married to at that point. From all three of those men the one thing I got was a work ethic....both by watching them and by being expected to do whatever was needed, period. Most of the other "manly" influences for me came from being in team sports and having some great coaches over the years. Later, having good mentors in the military kind of rounded it out. A couple of big things I learned and think are lacking totally now are:
1) Do what you are supposed/need to do, without fail. Being a man means there is a LOT of stuff that is unpleasant, hard, uncomfortable that you simply HAVE to do and complaining won't make it any easier.
2) You shouldn't be paying people to do stuff for you that you CAN do. Part of this was being dirt ass poor, and part was simply the pride. A lot of stuff in reality is not as hard as it seems. For me the only line in the sand is electric....I know my limits
3) Sometimes violence IS the answer and you should be prepared execute it both for your own safety and that of those you care about. The "violence is never the answer" crowd and the anonymity of the inter webs has led to a whole subculture of folks just BEGGING for a strong whipping to adjust their attitude and actions.
4) Being a man in the end has a lot to do with sacrifice....for your family.....for your community......for your country......for the greater good.
Buying condoms for the first time, talking to my first girl friend about sex/contraception/STDs. Buying tampons and pads for that girlfriend. Going with female friends to get the plan B pill when the d-bag they slept with peaced out and they were scared to go alone. Talking to my dying dad about POA, DNR, DNO... deciding to take my grand mother off life support.
Sounds like you need a hug
Granted I am not a Victoria Secret model, but finding a date in college was never an issue, so I am assuming you not hugging this SOB because I am an Indian
Granted I am not a Victoria Secret model, but finding a date in college was never an issue, so I am assuming you not hugging this SOB because I am an Indian
After watching my now 8 year old son struggle through sitting quietly in classrooms and writing story after story I think the whole system is geared toward breaking little boys down in a way. He, like many boys, is geared toward being active, doing math and building stuff like Legos which was not a big part of his 1st and 2nd grade. Along with what you're saying this can't be helping our young boys.
Aside from a select few, most of us wind up working jobs with some level of minutiae and we all have to do things we don't enjoy. Maybe 1st grade is young, but at some point we have to teach kids to sit through things they don't enjoy, as there's going to be a lot of it through high school and in their future professions.
Checkmate,,,
